I stumbled on this article, MORE THAN MEETS THE EYE: THE FEMALE GAMER EXPERIENCE written by a girl gamer and it resonated. I wasn’t 13 when I started playing WoW, but my experience was the same. :(
And then I discovered Trivial, and it became joyous to play. Trivial lets me be who I am. I’ve never heard any sexist, racist, or disparaging remarks. Or at least none that weren’t immediately called out. Not even when I play like a girl. Thank you, everyone of Trivial, and especially the officers, who make it such a safe place.